BDSM may not be a new concept to many of you with the combination of those letters, maybe you tried it and enjoyed it a long time ago, you just didn’t know yourself that it turned out to be a form of BDSM.
It’s important to realize that BDSM releases the animalistic side of adults and relieves stress, and there’s nothing wrong with that as long as it’s done safely and in moderation.
It’s just that a lot of people don’t understand the psychology of BDSM, and our instinctive reaction when confronted with patterns that are beyond our self-perception is to “not understand” + “resist”.
There are actually different levels and grades of BDSM, and the ones I’m going to share today are light BDSM for those who have never tried it before to get started.They are easy to follow, seductive, and can reduce a partner’s resistance to BDSM.
In fact, in real life, most couples will use light BDSM as an extension of their ordinary sex life. Mild SM using hand ties, blindfolds and other more common forms, to put it simply, for ordinary couples, mild SM is wearing erotic lingerie to tease each other temptation of a game, can add a lot of interest to the bland sex life.
In the movie Fifty Shades of Grey, the ropes, whips, feathers, blindfolds, etc., that the hero inflicts on the heroine are props to help her reach a deeper place of desire along with himself, a very different kind of lightness and naturalness than the one she had on her first night of excitement and sinking.
Anyway, give it a try, maybe your sex life will become more interesting ……
preliminary
Before you start, prep is not about preparing props, but about talking to your partner about the two rules:
First, clear bottom line for both sides
which behavior, I must not accept, please do not try. This point is relatively simple, communicate well beforehand.
Second, set up a safe word
If I say this word, it means that I am extremely disgusted and want to terminate it, so please let go of me right now.
You can think of the whole process as a movie, and you are the director. The safe word is like the “CUT!” in the director’s mouth, and once you call it out, the show stops immediately.
Light BDSM techniques
give the orders
Change all of your usual bedtime questions to commands, such as “Can you lift your ass up a little, baby? to “Lift your ass up” and so on.
When following your instructions, give appropriate praise. For example, “Good job”, “Good boy”, etc. When appropriate, ask the person some questions that allow him to express his desires. For example, “What do you want me to do now?”? “Where do I touch now”? etc.
Shield your eyes
It will be easier to do things in the dark that you would normally shy away from doing.
For novices, a professional eye mask is essential and is recommended to have a silk texture that is smooth and won’t bruise the skin, with strong light blocking properties and more intense sensory stimulation.
Covering your eyes, the pleasure comes from two main sources:
I wonder what the other person will do to you? Where will they touch themselves with a feather? What part of the body will the candle drip on? This curiosity and fear of the unknown greatly increases your arousal.
Not knowing what the other person is asking you to do. For example, suddenly asking you to put your legs in a certain position, etc., makes for great anticipation.
Light bondage
Tie it up. Don’t move!
Bondage has strong SM connotations. Being a prey to a beautiful woman for once is what many people desire in their hearts.
A smooth prop is essential and the following three are recommended:
Binding tape: electrostatic adsorption of the tape is the best, will not stick to the hair, the skin will not be pulled by the tape, but also generally does not leave any marks.
Bondage Rope: Truly conveying the pleasure of bondage, bondage rope used well is a work of art. We recommend the diamond braided ones for a stronger knot.
Bondage Toy Handcuffs: erotic role-play can be used as well, and choosing furry, cuddly toy handcuffs can make her first experience much more relaxing.
Spanking
Veteran abusers spanking is a topic, whip, feather or hand, spanking is a completely different sensation.
There is a technique to spanking, not the harder the better, but the louder the better, try swapping strengths and weaknesses, starting and stopping now and then.
A professional whip on the skin will not leave deep red marks, only exciting and humiliating snapping sounds.
Drip Wax
Use a bright red cryogenic candle, and you’ll be starring in a blood-soaked action movie.
Especially when blindfolded, you don’t know if the next drop will land on your back, or your ass. That anticipation coupled with shame can get you very excited!
Note: The closer the candle is to the body, the hotter the wax drips, and the more the candle is tilted, the faster the wax drips. Be careful with the technique.
Feather Flirting
I’m sure feathers are something we’re all more than familiar with.
Selection of ostrich feathers, fluffy, exquisite workmanship, each soft feather flirting stick with the body curve high and low, sliding through the place came bursts of itching, relaxation and pleasure, intoxicated, the body gradually into a good state.
Think of the feather as your fingers or lips during application. You can start by gently gliding over the end of the feather starting from your collarbone and then gliding towards the edges of your chest. Behind the ears, neck, arms, waist, belly, inner thighs, calves these are the areas to take care of.
